Why the feedback sandwich teaches your team to brace for bad news
Wrapping criticism in compliments is meant to soften it. Over time it does the opposite, teaching people to hear every piece of praise as a warning that something worse is coming.
THE QUICK ANSWER
The feedback sandwich, opening with a compliment before getting to the real issue, does not soften criticism. It teaches your team to brace the moment you say something nice, because praise has become the signal that correction is on its way. The fix is to separate the two. Give recognition on its own when it happens, and give correction on its own as well, framed forward around what you want next time.
GO DEEPER
How praise turns into a warning signal
Managers reach for the sandwich because it feels considerate. Starting with something positive seems to lower the temperature, and ending on a kind note feels like a way to protect the relationship. Many people were taught it as the polite, professional way to deliver criticism. It also makes the conversation more comfortable for the manager, since the difficult part is cushioned on both sides.
The trouble is that people quickly learn the pattern. Once a compliment reliably comes before a correction, the compliment stops meaning anything on its own. Team members start tensing up whenever you open with praise, waiting for the “but” they know is coming. Genuine recognition loses its value, and the correction itself gets blurred because it is buried between two softer messages.
The fix is to separate praise and correction into different conversations. When someone does something well, recognise it at the time, on its own, with nothing attached. When something needs to change, address that on its own too, and frame it forward: “Here’s what I want next time.” That keeps the correction clear and practical, and lets your praise be heard as praise again.
Separating the two does not mean delivering correction coldly. You can still be warm, respectful and clear that you believe the person can improve. The difference is that kindness comes through your tone and your focus on the future rather than through compliments used as padding. It also helps if recognition is frequent enough that people do not associate time with you mainly with criticism.
KEY TAKEAWAY
Keep praise and correction apart. When compliments stop being a warning sign, people can actually hear both.
TEST YOURSELF
A manager always opens corrective feedback with a compliment. What does the video suggest doing instead?
PRACTISE IT
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